With businesses starting up and then ending before five years have gone by, the saying, “cut your losses” has become popular. Is this a sign of the times in our culture? Or is it a sign that my perception of life is a little screwy? Has society been this way for some time and I, just now, have started to pay attention? Or could it be that I’m making a mountain out of a mole hill?
(Yes, I am having a love affair with clichés. It’s just old age creeping in on me.)
It isn’t just in the business world that I see this inclination in attitude. I heard this phrase from the mouths of family and friends when talking about almost anything in life.
A person bakes a cake to take to a child’s party. Even though the person has followed the directions and has kept the home quiet, the cake falls during the baking process. I can remember a time when a person in these circumstances would have said a few choice words under her or his breath and would have made another cake. The person does this because s/he is fond of the child and doesn’t want that child to be disappointed.
In today’s world, the best you could expect is that the person would go buy a cake if the one s/he make had fallen. However, chances are the fallen cake would be the one seen at the party with the person saying, “I had to cut my losses. The kid is just going to have to understand.”
I’ve heard this saying in situations with personal relationships as well. A couple may have been dating for a few months and feel that they’re getting serious about each other. They start making plans of commitment, either living together or even getting married. As it often is when commitments come into the picture, there’s a tension being felt by one or both in the relationship. And what follows? More than likely, a fight of some sort occurs.
It used to be that when there was a fight (escalated disagreement), the couple would try to smooth things out, come to a compromise or one would lean toward the other’s way of thinking. And it could take a while for all of this to happen. Because the couple wants the commitment, they’d work to resolve the issue.
In today’s world, I’m seeing something quite different. Once that fight happens, the relationship falls apart. Both parties want the other one to give in. Or one of them feels that the relationship wasn’t meant to be. If there is any attempt to reconcile, it doesn’t seem to be done with much effort. Instead, I’m hearing one or both saying, “I’m cutting my losses and moving on.”
Have you heard the term, “throw away society”? This pertains to how we throw things away not even bothering to try to fix them. Your computer starts acting up. You may call a local computer repair person or someone you think may able to help you. But before you hang up or just after you hang up, you decide that it isn’t worth the hassle and go to Wal-Mart, Staples or somewhere else to buy a brand new computer. And chances are what was wrong with the “old” one was one virus that you may have been able to get rid of through help on the Internet for free.
Okay, what is my point?
I think most of us give up too soon on anything and everything in life. We’re expecting to breeze through life with not very many curves or potholes in the road, let alone the flat tires and bad transmissions. To me, this really doesn’t seem to be living life to the fullest. It seems more like we want to watch it from the best seats in the theater. Yet, having the fullest life possible is exactly what we’re expecting to have. We seem to be wanting it both ways, which, of course, can’t be done.
What do you think? Is my perception peculiar or have we become a society of quitters, lazy do-nothings?
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