Learning to look at oneself with as much objectivity as humanly possible is rather burdensome on my poor little brain. I prefer my world to be black and white. It makes it easy to know where I stand on any issue and where I think I should be standing on any of those issues. Nevertheless, I am quite aware of the fact that life isn’t divided so neatly. This in itself puts me on edge a little.
I’ve just begun the last third of my life, yet I have not stopped to take a good look at myself and genuinely know what I’m about. A blogging friend of mine, April, has shown me, through her own efforts, that knowing myself may be the answer I’ve been looking for all these years. Now to give credit where credit is due, April joined a caravan that Suzanne, another blogging friend, has started. In Suzanne’s post, she explained how finding all there is to oneself and improving on that can be done starting with a 52 week venture. She calls it “52 weekly exercises to improve your life”.
I have decided to follow suit in an attempt to find that contentment within myself that I want so badly.
We are not talking about narcissistic self love here but rather a healthy appreciation of self. An integral part of this is reflecting on the things you have done ‘right’ in the past year.
Have you strengthened your character?
Have you improved your communication skills?
Are you more honest with yourself?Do you volunteer your time and talents?
Have you helped out someone when they needed you?
Have you created special memories with your family?
Did you organise an event or gathering that brought people closer together?
Have you achieved something important in your working life?
– Suzanne Jones
First week’s assignment is to list 25 things about myself that I had accomplished in the past year.
1. I have started writing a novel. I’ve had to stop and start over a few times but I haven’t let up on it. I write at least 5 days a week.
2. I have learned to accept the fact that I can’t do anything to make people like me. Either they like me or they don’t.
3. I’ve bonded closer with my mother. Because we are so much alike, this has always been difficult to do.
4. I’ve learned how to let other people have their way with their opinions even though mine is the complete opposite.
5. I’ve learned to accept more of my physical limitations. Letting others do for me has always been a challenge but I’m slowly accepting this in my life.
6. I’ve stopped worrying so much about my appearance. This doesn’t mean I’ve become a slob or anything else disgusting but I’m now opting for health instead of appearance.
7. I’ve stopped trying to “fix” all of my husband’s problems and concerns. I’ve realized that I’m just not capable of doing this.
8. I’ve started looking at each day as an opportunity to see good instead of bad. The negative was a terrible habit I got into and I think I’ve licked it.
9. I’m enjoying “fun” reading again. This is something I put aside for a number of years and I’m still not sure why.
I don’t even have half this list yet but I’ll be working on it.
Would you like to join in this undertaking?