The Fusser

#IWSG - First Wednesday's Fussings
TRYING TO KEEP MY DUCKS IN A ROW
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I’m perplexed by the writing process these days. I’m a neat freak by nature, yet I’m finding it confrontal. Yesterday afternoon, I came across a post written by Jami Gold about being organized. Reading this article, I became more frustration with my own inability to regulate my daily life. Everything she wrote made sense, of course, yet at the same time, I know that 99% of what she advocates is going to be too detailed for my brain to retain. At the same time, being the neat freak I am requires that comprehensive organization she recommends.

Truth be told, I’ve been having trouble organizing ever since I married my husband. I did so well with my entire life when I had a set schedule 24/7. I can fill all the slots of time with worthwhile activities, and that included R&R. Trying to find a schedule that will work everyday while living with my spouse has, so far, been an impossibility. He’s one of those people who do things at the last minute, never thinking about any unforeseen setbacks. Because of this way of life, he ends up spending more time and money doing things that actually should have already been done and at a lower cost.

Being a writer is difficult enough. This is the one activity I have come back to time and time again since I learned how to write full sentences. (I loved first grade.) The words fall onto the paper/screen a little faster than they did so long ago, but it’s still a struggle, even when it appears that the words are flowing like a river—well, with me, it’s never gotten past flowing like a small muddy creek. Yet, because I love doing it for some unexplained reason, I keep trudging along.

My husband doesn’t share this love with me. He used to write poetry way back in high school, but that was before I knew him. He showed me some of his work—good stuff. Somewhere along the way he lost his interest in it. Now he doesn’t have a clue as to what is needed for a writer to do his or her best at this craft. Moreover, he turns a deaf ear to what I ask of him concerning my writing. Indubitably, he doesn’t do it maliciously. He just cannot understand how important this activity is to me.

What does this have to do with being organized, you ask? Usually organization means there’s cooperation because the need for it, in the first place, is due to the need to coordinate your daily life with that of someone else. This is exactly where one of my grievances lay. Even though my creative juices may be flowing at five in the evening, that is when the TV is blaring. He may or may not be in that room. If he’s home, there is noise. Be that as it may, I do have 8 hours during the workweek that are exclusively mine. I get housework done, read blogs, answer email, send email, read chapters in books, and yes, I do get a little writing in there.

Another thing that rattles me is the unnecessary phone calls that plague me as a stay-at-home person. I despise the phone. No matter what ringtone I have, where I have the contraption in my home, or how important the call may be, I hate the phone. When PCs had to be on dial-up to be online, I was in heaven. No one could reach me by phone. (I didn’t have a cell phone. Still don’t.) Unfortunately, I was in a phase of doing web graphic then, so, of course, I wasn’t spending that time writing.

Are you going to tell me to unplug my phone? That really isn’t a good idea. I’ll have everyone at my door wondering if I’m dead. The beauty of the dial-up was everyone thought I was fine and was just having a long conversation with someone.

What this all boils down to is I’m having a hell of a time trying to find a schedule that will allow me at least two hours of uninterrupted time of writing every day. With this problem though, is another one that is purely mine. I did have a time set up for these five days of eight-hour solitude. But then I lost my writing momentum. I won’t call it a block because that isn’t the right word for what is going on with me. I could find things to write about, just not what I had intended to write. I believe this is called a lack of discipline, an unwillingness to break down the barrier between my obstacle and my goal.

The past few days and today I’ve been having some minor digestive problems to add to my predicament. No, I do not have the flu. Anyway, I’ve been using home remedies and sleeping to fight this germ off. In the process, I’ve discovered that I needed the sleep anyway. Now my gumption to write seems to be back. Out of a plight comes relief–weird.

I can only hope I can keep this going. Does anyone out there have some creative ideas that will help me with scheduling and discipline?

 

 

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11 Replies to “The Fusser”

    1. Since starting The Ugly Baby Challenge course, I’ve been trying to figure out how to get my butt in the chair easier. I need a calendar on the wall right above my PC screen. Next job to get done before the week ends is to create the calendar and print it out. 🙂

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  1. I have to say, you’ve covered an awful lot of what I’d come up with. I couldn’t write when my kids were home–nothing worked. Saying I needed two hours to myself, well, never outlasted the kids need for ‘whatever’. I still drop everything when they call for help (they’re in DC and TX now to my CA, but they still call–I’m blessed).

    Husby has such faith in me and my writing, he doesn’t bother me. He does all sorts of household chores so I can write. Again, I’m blessed. This, of course, doesn’t make me a better writer, merely gives me the time. Don’t know what to do about the skill part.

    Great post. I found myself wanting to chat with you at any number of spots as I was reading!

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    1. My cell phone isn’t the problem. It’s my landline. Although, now that we’ve switched phone companies, I wonder if I can set up a voicemail message saying something like that. Hmm… I’ll look into it. Thanks, Susan. 😀

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  2. Thanks for the shout out to my post, Glynis! I wish I had some advice for you, but as I mentioned in my post, I struggle too. :/

    As for you and your hubby, have you each taken the Myers-Briggs personality test I wrote about last week? I’d bet you two have some strong differences in results, and understanding those differences might help you each see the other’s perspective. Just a thought. 🙂 Good luck!

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    1. I don’t mind giving worthy plugs at all, Jami.

      I’ve taken the test before. Yes, Hubby and I are different in a lot of ways. Opposites attract, you know. I just need to figure out how to work with the idiosyncrasies better. 🙂

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  3. Lack of discipline? No. I think you just have lulls in your writing. About the phone, tell your callers when you are available and let them know you expect them to honor your the period when you are not available to their calls.

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