The one behavior that will set me off is arrogance. I hope and pray that I never come off looking as if I have this flaw. If I am this way at any time, I hope someone pulls me aside and tactfully tells me about it. I understand that there isn’t any positive way to discuss something like this, but a word of warning before laying the cards on the table would prepare me for the words that must be said.
I thought I had gotten away from curt pretensions when I graduated from high school. Yes, the young are foolish. Still, I didn’t notice any bad cases of it until I was twenty-four. Maybe is was just that college students are more aware of social masks and wear them more often. Even the one person I came across that twenty-fourth year didn’t seem to need a lot of pomp and circumstance. She just had a narcistic personality, not understanding why the people around her didn’t magically know what she want.
About four years into my marriage with Hubby, I came across a woman who was pure arrogance. She flaunted herself around as if she was better that the Queen of England. I was unfortunate enough to be working for her at the time. She assumed that she needed to constantly ‘teach’ her subordinates. She completely disregarded to possibly that the fault may have laid with her instead. Her behavior was patronizing and snooty.
After we rolled over into the twenty-first century, I met a relative who has proved to be arrogant. Maybe I shouldn’t use the word met because I did know her before but it had been over ten years prior and either one of us had changed drastically or both of us had. All of a sudden I was in front of a woman who could not let anyone be better that her. Any proof of her being wrong was, in her eyes, either miscalculated or she had what she thought was a perfect excuse for her error. She believes that she knew better than anyone else on almost any subject. What is so aggravating is that I can’t just walk away. She’s a relative. I try to stay as far away from her as humanly possible when at family functions. I do not call her unless I’m asked to for an important reason. This is all I can do to cope with her arrogance.
What I find miraculous is that since I’ve been online (1999), it wasn’t until two years ago (2013) that I found someone on the internet that definitely is in the category of being arrogant. I’ve tried to ‘move’ away from this person. I unsubscribed from the blog. I don’t have the email address for the person. This is one of the several reasons no one finds me at Facebook despite the fact that I’ve kept my account there. The person keeps on popping up. No, this person isn’t one of you who have subscribed to my blog. I wouldn’t write this type of post if the person had a subscription with me. I guess I could try sending a tactful email, but even that seems rude to me. Even after writing about how I would want to be told about this awful human trait, I know that not everyone wants the truth. Some people like living in la-la land. I should be able to rise above this somehow.
Did I hear someone whisper that I should show pity or sadness for people who have this behavior? How about I pity their strong reluctance to see how they’re ruining their own lives. After all, can’t all of us change our behaviors if we just try?
What appalling behavior sends you to outer space?