After my last post, in which I discussed arrogance along with some other attributes that usually aren’t too pleasant, I thought a discourse about humility and tolerance was in order.
I’ll stand up for myself when I feel I’m being wrongly accused–in most instances that is. Every time I’ve waited for someone to stand up for me, I’ve been sorely disappointed. But is my action the right one to pursue? Are all those situations so dire I must make sure I’m not misunderstood or blamed? Why can’t I accept lowliness?
I was taught, from the time I was a little girl, to be self-reliant, truthful, and persistent. There isn’t a time I remember when I was advised to be unassuming or allow anyone to take advantage of me.
I’m extremely modest about many personal aspects, but I do lack meekness. I like being courteous and respectful. Acknowledging a person’s better qualities and being kind makes me feel incredible. And, let’s face it, reverence and manners are necessary in order to get along with people.
Nonetheless, the jury is still out on whether humbleness or tolerance are all that worthwhile to have at traits or not with me. Should I wait for someone else to blow my horn for me? Should I readily and blindly assume someone I barely know has the one and only right answer? Should courtesy and respect be doled out like candy on Halloween? I just can’t imagine myself being subservient to anyone or brown-nosing anyone.
Notwithstanding, I should try harder to be tolerant of people’s differences and shortcomings. After all, I’m far from perfect and I do have more than my share of quirks. I can learn so much from people who are different from me, things I could never learn from someone who mirrors me.
During the 1960s and the first years of the 1970s, there was a movement worldwide trying to teach humility and tolerance. Of course, it never would have sold being called such, so it was addressed as love. Both young and old bought into it for a few years. I remember taking friends over to my grandmother’s to listen to her stories about when she was young. My friends were learning something new from someone who was old. Who would think the young would do such a thing? Who would think an elderly person would be so patient? Unfortunately, the movement didn’t create a creed that would last through the years beyond that unique time. People went back to being arrogant, self-absorbed, and deceitful by the corporate years of the 1980s.
Are humans naturally narcissistic and deceptive? This is a possibility, maybe even a probability. Does humility or tolerance have any chance at all of surviving?
Please voice your opinions. Don’t be shy.
“Listen more than you talk. Nobody learned anything by hearing themselves speak.” – Sir Richard Branson